Just Say No… to Stress, and ROW80

Last year around this time, I put up a post on ways I’ve found to deal with all the extra stuff we have to do around the holidays, that can add greatly to our stress level if we aren’t careful. One of those was evaluating which holiday events we really need to attend… and which we can gracefully decline.

My primary decision-making process for this is quite simple: just ask yourself these questions:

  • If I don’t go, will someone be disappointed or hurt?
  • Are there people there I care about, who won’t understand why I can’t make it?
  • If I don’t go, will it adversely impact me (for example, career or business issues)?
  • Are these people who don’t live nearby, and whom I don’t see at other times of the year?
  • Do I really want to go? (<- This one is the most important!)
I had to make one of those decisions yesterday… then woke up not feeling well, so that pretty much made the decision for me. I felt well enough to sit at my computer and play games, and the party I had to skip was one where my friends understood.

I also got some work done, including my ROW80 goals for the week! Here are the details:

  • Hangar 18 – finish type-in – Done!
  • Hangar 18 – get answers for new/remaining few research questions, and send to editor – Done!
  • Hangar 18 – put together book info sheet – Done!
  • Physical activity 5x this week – Done! (Good thing I did it Monday – Friday!)

I’ve already met my ROW80 goals for the overall quarter. But I’m not going to take the next week and a half off. There’s still much to be done, although with the holidays coming and all the extra to-do that entails, I am going for small goals. So for this week, I’d like to:

  • Hangar 18 – write up front and back matter
  • Hangar 18 – create full cover (for paperback – ebook/front cover already done)
  • Physical activity 5x this week

If you’re participating in ROW80, how are you doing so far? Do you have any tips on beating holiday stress? If so, please share – I’m always looking for more!

Jennette Marie Powell writes stories about ordinary people in ordinary places, who do extraordinary things and learn that those ordinary places are anything but. In her Saturn Society novels, unwilling time travelers do what they must to make things right... and change more than they expect. You can find her books at Amazon, Barnes & Noble, Smashwords, KoboiTunes, and more.

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  1. I always ask myself a few questions when it comes to events: Do I have an obligation to go? (i.e. court appointments). Do I have a responsibility to go? (i.e. meeting with my child’s teachers). Will anyone suffer physical harm if I don’t go? (i.e. taking my child to the doctor when ill). If the answer to all these is no – then, Do I want to go, is the only question and I’ll choose what I want without guilt.

    Good short term goals to close out your year – All the best, always :D
    Gene Lempp recently posted..ROWing to DoomsdayMy Profile

  2. Great questions! Another simple one: Do I even like these people? I know that sounds callous, but sometimes we spend social time with people we’re not crazy about when we could be hanging out with our loved ones or meeting people we could come to love.

    Great ROW80 week! I’m hanging there–getting about 2/3-3/4 of my goals knocked out each week.
    Julie Glover recently posted..Are Those Real? and #ROW80My Profile

  3. Haha, Julie, you’re right! Unfortunately, those “spending time with people we don’t like” events tend to be events where our spouse will get mad if we don’t go LOL.